Don’t Let Dreams Pass By

Like the flashing light of a distant city that is viewed through the dirty windows of a speeding train, dreams on the horizon can pass by far too fast. 

I'm sure you can appreciate what I'm saying. The flash of brilliance you had in a moment of quiet reflection, the idea that would change your future, now looks like the distant light of a passing city you forgot to explore.

That's your dreams, way out there on the horizon, passing by far too fast, seeming too far away to reach out and connect to. 

That's your dreams.

How can a compelling idea be left to drift un-attended? Seemingly evaporating to find its resting place on top of the pile of other unexplored ideas, other untried dreams. When just a few short moments ago, it appeared so compelling that nothing was going to stop you from achieving it.

What happened, what made you stop, give up before you even began?

I have been exploring an idea that came to my attention a while ago. It's such a simple concept that it may come of surprise, yet it's a concept that I believe, if used daily, would allow the dreams that pass in the distance to quickly become a reality.

The concept is based on the simple fact that we all make it so very hard to be happy, succeed, and in the same breath, so simple to be sad and fail. Why don't we change our perspective? It should be easy to be happy and extremely difficult, if not impossible, to be sad and fail. 

Take a moment and consider how this tiny change to your everyday thinking would affect your daily reality.

You're starting a new business, a new relationship, trying to learn a new skill, attempting to fix a broken situation. These everyday acts can seem very hard to achieve if we stick to traditional thinking and allow them to be seen that way.

In any of these common tasks, you try hard, do your best, and everything goes well for a while. But then the inevitable happens, and you have a setback. My guess is when this happens, there is a good chance that the wheels fall off and you classify what you are trying to achieve as a waste of time, as a failure, and even worse, you view yourself as having failed.

Could this outcome all come down to the simple fact that we have set up the concept of success and failure the wrong way around? 

Could it be true that at the first sign of something not working out the way you planned, you instantly fall back on your learned behaviour? The behaviour that confirms that if anything goes wrong, if there are any bumps in the road, then you have failed, meaning you're a failure.

But what would the same situation look like if we changed our perspectives, resetting how easy it is to be happy and succeed. Imagine how this simple perspective shift could change your life?

We all know that when trying something new, we will make mistakes, but what if the mistakes were seen as proof of success?

Imagine a new relationship; what would it feel like if your first disagreement was a sign of success, a sign of deepening connection, a sign of growing trust. As opposed to a sign that the relationship is doomed, that you will never find love, that you will grow old alone.

Now look at the same situation and explore the concept of failure. What happened if the only way you could fail is impossible, and I mean totally impossible. 

Like we had a fight, and he time-traveled back to when I was a four-year-old and stole my magical bear and placed it on the moon so I could never touch it again. Sounds silly, right? But if this is your marker for failure, if this has to happen for you to be sad. Then I would suggest that it will be close to impossible for you to be anything but happy and successful. 

Study the task of learning a new skill from this fresh perspective. What if success means only taking part in the act of trying and failure means the earth's crust opening up and swallowing you. If you can live life with this perspective, you will be successful; you will live your life at a higher vibration where sadness and failure are distant memories. You will create a life lived in a constant state of happiness, joy, and success.

Start small and change your perspective; change the way you view success and failure. Allow success to be the most simple thing to achieve; wake up and take a deep breath - success. Make a business call - success. Commit to learning a new skill - success. 

Create an existence where success and happiness surround you at every moment of the day. Live a life where the easiest thing in the world to achieve is success, and the hardest thing in the world to achieve is failure.